Warning: life-y, non-thematic entry ahead


If you’re here for healthy eating strategy, I’ve absolutely got your back—next week.

Today, we’re veering slightly away from practical + helpful, and more toward personal. And I have a question or two for you.

See, June and July have been filled with plenty of staple summer activities: patio lunches. Lazy lake days. Salty beach stays. Boozy, music-filled nights with friends both old and new.

But those moments have been peppered into a mix of major milestones:

- My main squeeze and I proposed to each other (long backstory here).

- Jake, my brother, and Kayla, my (now) sister-in-law, tied the knot.

- Grandma Suellentrop—mother of 13, grandmother and great-grandmother of enough people to populate a small town—turned 90.

And now, to throw our lives onto a completely different course, I’ve just said yes to a really rad job.

In Atlanta.

Which means that the luxuriously long, meandering four months Stephen and I were about to spend in Jersey City together—him finishing his thesis, me packing up our lives and reconnecting with precious, much-missed friends—has been smashed into a little three-week sandwich.

It also means that our plan to relocate to Wichita—to make family a part of our daily lives again, to enjoy + play a part in the development of our hometown’s rapidly growing culture, to build businesses and relationships and a home base there together—has been put on hold for another few years.

It’s deeply bittersweet.

We’re young, we’re largely commitment-free, and we’re totally open to adventure. And diving into everything Atlanta + the smaller surrounding cities (Athens, Chattanooga, etc) have to offer? Epitome of adventure right there. Plus, I’m genuinely thrilled to be able to join a rapidly-growing company in its early stages and to make a direct impact on its visibility—it feels so purposeful, so challenging, so useful.

I just hate that doing so means no more debauchery with Catherine (or the rest of my cousins), no more taco nights at Jake + Kayla’s adorable new house, no more goofing around with Harrison, no more girl-time with these beautiful ladies or trips to see my beloved Kansas City women or supporting favorite local bands and drinking favorite local beers in favorite local bars.

At least, not for a few more years.

And I’ve got enough healthy eating strategies and shortcuts to last a crazed, pack-up-and-see-ALL-the-friends kinda gal months, but my question to you is this:

When you’re dealing with a major transition–within the context of your relationship, your geography, your career, your emotional state, your world–how do you cope?

What parts of your life do you ease up on, and what rituals do you hold dear?



  • Kirsty @ The Natural Foodie

    Wait, what!? How did I miss this, a PROPOSAL? Well, congratulations lovely lady, this post is filled with so much excitement I’m practically bursting at the seems for you! The new job sounds kind of amazing, although vague? Would love to hear more. And, congrats again, so well deserved xxx

    • http://eatwellpartyhard.com/ Claire Suellentrop

      Kirsty! It’s been a crazy few months, lady. And I specifically requested no ring, so our “Engagement!” social media update wasn’t really that obvious.

      Thanks so deeply for the kind words–warms my heart that we’ve been able to stay connected across our various borders over the years :) Re: the job, I’m the marketing director for a small tech startup in Atlanta (big city in the Southern region of the US). It’ll be quite an adjustment, but one that Stephen and I are both pretty excited about!

  • Joy Boardman

    I get overwhelmed really easily but the best advice anyone ever gave me was “figure out what your priorities are.”. (This works for spending money, too)
    If one of your priorities is spending time with friends then it’s okay to say no to the 5 other things you’re supposed to do and say yes to going out to dinner & catching up. (Not every night, obviously, because hopefully you have more than one priority….maybe family or your romantic life)
    So, you still go to work but you work in order to spend time with your friends, family, significant other….by focusing on your priorities, you create balance. I dont know if I explained it correctly but I hope it helps a little….
    Congratulations on all the excitement!! :)

    • http://eatwellpartyhard.com/ Claire Suellentrop

      Loooooove the insight here, Joy. I tend to freak out and try to make *everything* a priority, and of course, that just leads to burnout and a bunch of half-completed projects/pursuits, rather than anything that’s been done really well. Still struggling to create that balance, but I think what you’ve said here may be the reason for that: that I haven’t sat down and really figured out what’s a *true* priority, and what can wait for a while. Thanks for the solidarity <3

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